In the adoption community, the phrase 'adoptive parents' is often code for 'adoptive moms,' and it's rare to hear from fathers at all, either birthfathers or adoptive dads, but a healthy open adoption requires the work to create and maintain it be done by both adoptive parents. Communication and understanding between birth mothers and adoptive fathers are critical components in a healthy open adoption relationship. Shanyce Henley is a birthmother and Ron Lundeen, her children's adoptive father, talk candidly about their experiences in building an adoption triad based in friendship, mutual respect, and trust.